Narcissistic Rage: This Is What Happens When You ‘Discard’ An Abusive Narcissist First

Many books, articles and online platforms for abuse survivors often focus on what happens when a narcissistic abuser ‘devalues’ and ‘discards’ their victims.  Yet what happens when survivors are lucky enough to identify the abuse that is occurring to them and with...

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Grey Divorce: Its Reasons & Its Implications

Grey divorce refers to a demographic trend that has witnessed an increase in the split or separation of older couples who have been married for a long time. Grey divorcees are also called “silver or diamond splitters,” and the...

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Blending Your Families? You’d Better Come Up With A Plan!

“I’ve been invited to their house for Memorial Day! I need to know; how do I do this?  How did you do this?” It is May 2009 and I am sitting in Marciano’s Café at Fred Segal in Los Angeles with...

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Relational Abuse: From Subtle to Violent – Overt, covert, or just bad behavior — it needs to stop.

There are many types of abuse in relationships, and sometimes it's actually difficult to know if your partner is being abusive or just behaving badly. One covert type of abuse is emotional, like passive-aggressive behavior. This is when a person acts...

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Alarming Effects of Children’s Exposure to Domestic Violence

Domestic violence (DV) takes many forms, including chronic arguing and yelling, controlling behaviors, threats and intimidation, threats of suicide or murder, threats involving weapons, and serious injuries and fatal assaults. There is always, however, a destructive undercurrent of power and control, with...

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How to Leave a Narcissist or Toxic Relationship

When we fall in love, it’s natural to become attached and form a romantic bond. But once in love with a narcissist, it’s not easy to leave, despite the abuse. Although you're unhappy, you may be ambivalent about leaving...

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Co-parenting with an A**hole – Or Someone Who Does Things Much Differently Than You

Without question, one of the biggest hurdles in a divorce is how to deal with shared custody. In many post-dissolution relationships, custody disputes are the gifts that just keep giving. And it’s not so much about physical custody or shared...

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Should You Consider a Separation Instead of a Divorce?

Not every marriage ends with an epic fight and an eternal hatred for one another that can never be quenched. In certain cases, a marriage can just quietly wither until one spouse (usually the woman) simply decides that she...

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26 Things People Don’t Realize You’re Doing Because You Survived an Abusive Relationship

After you’ve survived an abusive relationship — even after years or decades have passed — the effects of that trauma can still linger. This isn’t meant to scare you. This isn’t meant to say that recovering from an abusive relationship...

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15 Things to Remember When Co-Parenting With a Toxic Ex-Spouse

You would think that after spending months and thousands of dollars trying to divorce your spouse that you would be able to move on with your life, right? Well, this is not always the case in high-conflict divorces. After going...

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